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The handsomest man in the ICU (again)

UPDATE 8:15am: The hospital is full so we’re still in the ER. Ruled out a UTI, and waiting on additional tests. When the nursing home calls, I always take the call. There’s a tightening in my chest, wondering if it’s a “We’re just changing up Mike’s meds” call or a “You should probably meet him at the hospital, he’s already in the ambulance” call. Tonight was a real one. The nursing home decided he should be taken by ambulance to the hospital, and then he was completely unacc

Jul 61 min read

Another stay in the ICU - but back home already after five days!

Mike was recently admitted to the ICU for the second time due to pneumonia. This happened after he aspirated his food again, which is an ongoing risk because of his traumatic brain injury. His swallow mechanism simply doesn’t work the way it should. On top of that, he can’t sit fully upright because severe vertigo makes him uncomfortable, and eating while leaning back in his wheelchair makes swallowing even harder. Another challenge is that Mike can’t move his body the way mo

Jan 212 min read

December 8th: Three Years.

Three years ago today, our lives split into a before and an after . At the time, we couldn’t have imagined what the coming days, months, and years would hold. We didn’t yet have language for the grief, the uncertainty, or the long road ahead. We just knew that nothing would ever be the same. What we couldn’t see then was this: change doesn’t only bring loss. Sometimes it also brings resilience, perspective, community, and a deeper understanding of love. Over the last three y

Dec 8, 20252 min read